Week One, Day 2
Before I start today's exercise..Here is another should...I should set up an alarm to get some alone time first thing in the morning.
"The more I strive for success in my personal and professional life, the more I realize that the world will get out of the way for a person with unshakable vision. By vision, I don't mean an idealistic view of what you would like to see happen someday. I mean the kind of vision that wakes you up in the morning and starts your engine, the kind of vision that is so real you can almost taste it. That's the kind of vision you need as a mother. You need to see the mom that you want to become with such acute clarity that would adopt the character as your own" (p.21).
Wow. Sure beats rolling out of bed every morning with only one vision: Coffee, lots and lots of coffee, anxiety over what SHOULD be done but will probably never get started let alone finished and guilt...Lots and lots of unwarranted useless guilt.
"For many a vision is an escape from reality. However, the truth is that a real vision is a powerful tool that can help you create the reality you desire. If you can truly envision it, then you can realize it" (p.22).
Does this mean I can no longer sit in the living room section of Pottery Barn (pretending I live there. Yep...I have gotten some weird looks doing this when I go over half an hour...)envisioning next Summer' vacay in the Hamptons building a sand castle with the boys in this season's bikini during the day, while rockin' a sexy cocktail dress sipping on a Martini (and actually liking it) wearing this season's Manholos flirting with Mr.Big...Oups I mean Big Daddy a la Mr.Big...?
"If your daydreams pull you away from reality, they eat up time and energy that you could put towards realizing your dreams" (p.22).
Reality vs Fantasy...Sigh.
"Fighting the inertia in order the pursue your vision will probably be the most challenging task when it comes to achieving your goals. As soon as you decide that want to be kinder, more compassionate mother, your child will publicly embarrass you and make you boiling mad. When you make a resolution to catch up on your laundry, the washing machine will break and flood the house. On day you decide to get in shape your neighbor will appear at your door with a plate of fudge. It's inevitable. But it's not impossible. The way I see it, the more obstacles I overcome, the more skills I develop. A true vision is not a guarantee against pitfalls. Instead. it is a reason to find a scrape, scratch, and claw your way out of them" (p.23).
Affirmative. So, so, so Affirmative.
"You deserve the very best life: the best home, the best family, the best husband. You deserve to look good and feel good. You deserve to be positive, inspired, energetic, and excited every day. You deserve to cream fifty lifetimes' worth of living into your one Life. This is, or will be, your reality. And everything that does not fit into this reality is considered subpar and unacceptable. Our lives are completely determined by what we will and will not accept" (p.24).
I am reminded of a quote from Eckart Tolle who writes in "A New Earth" about the principle of inflow and outflow. You receive what you put out in the world. So simple yet so difficult to grasp in difficult times when you have no energy to reach out but crave being reached out to...
"You are the only one holding the cards. No power on earth-money, looks, luck, talent, opportunity, nothing- can stand up against the power of your beliefs and your determination to act in accordance to those beliefs" (p.25).
1. Look at the list of SHOULDS that you made yesterday...Use this list as a springboard to identify what you want out of Life. Take those frustrations and channel them to create the woman you want to become (p.25).
2. Look through your favorite magazines and books to find pictures and quotes that capture the vision you have for your home, health, family, and life" (p.25).
Will continue later...With a pic of my vision board!
P.S. TTM: Total Mom Makeover