Week 1, Day 1
"Motherhood has a way of sneaking up on you...Eventually, you are just trying to make it through another day without losing your car keys, your temper, or your mind" (p.15).
Which reminds me...Where are my keys again?
"Our grandmothers knew how to do motherhood, but that's because they didn't have as many options as we do now. They were raised to know how to cook and clean, how to care for babies, and how to send off their husbands off to work with a smile....They also knew that they were only as strong as their support network, so they reached out and maintained a sense of community with other moms" (p.16).
Hmmm...Does Facebook count as a community?
"Our mothers had more options but an entirely new set of challenges. They were brave women treading new territory in their careers and personal accomplishments...Even the mothers who chose to make family their primary career felt left behind as their support network donned business suits and left for work" (p.16).
Like my mom. She worked very, very hard. How hard? Working the evening and night shift as a waitress in a 5 star restaurant and managing to keep the fort at home as best as she could.
"Moms today have options that our grandmothers could never have imagined. We can choose to stay at home, go to work, or even work from home so that we an build a career as well as a family. We can raise our kids and even educate our kids, build a career or pursue a hobby, invest in our marriage while investing in ourselves" (p.16).
Anyone else out there get the impression this was not the point of burning our bras? It seems like there are more expectations...More decisions to make...And more pressure.
"Therein lies the problem: How do we choose?....It's no longer a question of what we have to chose from, but we make our choices. This determines whether we skink or swim" (p.16).
(Insert Law and Order sound effect here).
"The first step to becoming a Total Mom is to forget about what you SHOULD be doing. The SHOULDS keep you running around like crazy, fueling everyone and everything while you dwindle down to nothing. So quit beating yourself. There is no room in the Total Mom Life for negativity and self-sabotage. Just take it one step at a time. It's not about what you SHOULD be doing, it's about what you COULD be doing....QUIT FEELING GUILTY. QUIT FEELING POWERLESS. QUIT FEELING HOPELESS. You don't have time for that anymore. Throw out the old and usher in the new" (p.17).
Well the last paragraph pretty much sums up the last 4 years, now does it?
1. "Whatever is bugging you, this is the time to get it out of your head and onto paper...Don't worry about doing anything about them now. That will come later" (p.20)
2. Make a firm decision that you want more out of life, that you want to be the best mother, wife, homemaker, and woman that you could be...Begin with "I have decided (home, health, family&life)...." (p.20)
Will continue later...Did not get up early enough to enjoy MY time ALONE...